Writing and creating an online dating profile is not rocket science. Yet for some, sitting in front of a computer, staring at a blank “About Me” box, thinking about what they are going to write about themselves is quite devastating. After all, what will be written will have the power to find their perfect match or turn them away. This can be an overwhelming task especially for those who are not used to talking about themselves- but to be realistic, who talks about themselves on a daily basis? No one. For this reason, many online dating profiles are poorly written and overlooked by other viewers; costing them their chances of possibly meeting their perfect match.
So, what should you write on your online dating profile? How do you attract the right match for you? What types of pictures should you choose for your profile? Are all of these things really necessary and important? The answer is yes. All of these things are important in helping you achieve the goal that prompted you to start online dating to begin with-meeting the right person! Keep reading, as this article will address all of these questions and more.
In this article, you will find:
- How to create and write your online dating profile.
- How to attract the right person for you, through your online dating profile.
- The type of pictures you should post on your online dating profile.
- The things to avoid on your online dating profile.
Once you have completed reading this article, you will know the ins and outs in creating the perfect online dating profile, to help you achieve your goal of meeting your perfect match!
How to Create and Write Your Online Dating Profile
When you write and create your online dating profile, you give other viewers a glimpse of who you are. Much thought must be given into your profile, as you want to attract the right people and not just anyone. On the other hand, creating and writing your online dating profile carelessly, may reflect onto your profile. This can cause many viewers to turn away, including possible matches. For this reason, we have outlined how to create an effective dating profile that will help you attract the right person:
You want to include a few things when describing yourself to attract the right person. You do not want to give so much information away that you have nothing left to talk about when interacting with your right match. Here are a few things you can include in your self-description that will help you attract the right person without giving everything about you away:
Hobbies: This is a huge one, as your hobbies will inform the viewer of whether or not they share the same interests with you. It is also important to note, that when you are writing about your hobbies, you write in a way that they can picture doing this hobby with you. For example, instead of saying that you enjoy walking on the beach, you can say, “I would love to share the view of the beautiful sunset while walking on the beach with that special someone”. This not only informs the reader that you enjoy walks on the beach, but it also gives them a picture of what it would be like to date you. If they share the same interests as you, they will be more likely to make a connection. If they do not share the same interests, it can help weed out the matches that are not right for you.
Career: When you share your career in your dating profile, you give the reader a small idea of what your life is like. Are you a social worker, who works long hours? A blogger that works the laptop style? A doctor who is always on demand? A business owner who calls his or her own hours? By providing information about your career, it can also help eliminate people who are not the right match for you, as the reader will be able to predetermine whether or not they can be supportive of your demanding career.
Personality: There is nothing better than reading about what the person is like. Providing information about your personality and personal preferences is also important in finding your right match. Now, that does not mean you want to list every single trait of your personality. You do want to provide some insight as to what your preferences are such as, if you are a stay at home person, an adventurer, artistic, etc. When writing your personality traits, try to write in a way that demonstrates who you are, by telling a story behind it. For example, if you are the adventurer type, include a brief story about how you traveled to Europe to get to know another part of the world. You can also include pictures to help bring your story to life.
Write your profile as if you are the viewer
The next time you are looking through other people’s dating profiles, pay attention to what made you click on their profile. Take note of this, and keep it in mind as you are writing your own profile. Chances are that if you display what made you click on someone else’s profile that someone may also want to click on yours.
Fill in all the blanks
Try to fill in every box when creating your profile, as doing so only helps your viewers know more about you and determining whether they could be a good match with you.
Now that you know the tips to help you write an online dating profile, you can begin putting together the words that will help you effectively portray yourself, and help you find your special someone.
How to Attract the Right Person for You, Through Your Online Dating Profile
We have mentioned a few tips already on how to weed out people that are not a right match for you and find the one who is. However, there are few more things to keep in mind when using your online dating profile to attract the right one:
Be Honest: There is nothing that will inform the reader better of what you are looking for in a partner, than yourself. Do not be afraid to be honest about the type of person you are looking for. This does not mean it is an excuse to be shallow or put people down. You want to be honest by describing traits. For example, instead of saying, “Don’t bother contacting me if you are dumb and do not like to read”, you can say, “I would really enjoy meeting someone who is into literature as I am, and exchange favorite books”. By describing, it this way, you are not putting anyone down, or sounding like a condescended person.
Emphasize what you’re looking for through your own actions: The best way to attract the person that is right for you is by bringing what you are looking for to life with your actions. If you are looking for an athletic partner, make sure you emphasize that being fit and healthy are important to you, which is why you take the time to exercise and eat healthy. You can also add that you would like to exercise with that special someone. In other words, back up what you would like of your potential partner with actions that you are currently taking and will continue to take. A viewer who is also athletic may want to make a connection, vs. someone who is not may decide to get out of your profile in that moment.
Finding the right one will become much easier if you provide plenty of information on what it is you are seeking in a partner. The less information you provide the more you might find that people who are not right for you are trying to make a connection. Therefore, it is imperative that you add this information so you don’t waste your time or anyone else’s time.
The Type of Pictures You Should Post on Your Online Dating Profile
Pictures are also an important part of an online dating profile. It gives viewers a face of who they are reading about. Therefore, it is important that you include the following in your pictures:
- An up close face picture.
- A full body picture.
- A picture of you doing the hobbies that you like to do.
- A picture of you and your friends.
It is also important to note, that your main profile picture should be solely of you and no one else accompanying you in the picture. As it can be confusing to pin point who you are among the group of friends. You also want to choose pictures that bring out your best features or depicts your best character. Do not post pictures that no longer portray how you currently look like. If you have died your hair or have gotten a new haircut, then take new pictures and post those. Posting older pictures that show you looking differently, can be misleading and disappointing when you finally meet face to face with your match.
The Things to Avoid On Your Online Dating Profile
Now that we have covered what you should do to attract the right person for you, it is also important to know what you should avoid when creating your online dating profile. Doing any of these things may cause your right match to turn away:
Don’t put yourself down: When you put yourself down, you give the message that you don’t think highly of yourself and lack esteem. If you don’t think you are worthy why would anyone else think otherwise and want to give you their time of day. If you do struggle with your self-esteem, then it is probably best that you work on yourself first before seeking a relationship.
Do not boost your ego: Bragging about yourself is at the opposite end of the spectrum of putting yourself down. This is also a big NO when writing your online dating profile. When you brag about yourself, you can be seen as being arrogant, which is a very unattractive trait. Instead, write about yourself in a modest way.
Making your online dating profile public, without proofreading or spellchecking: Not taking the time to proofread and spellcheck can also cost you meeting the right person. It can make you seem sloppy and as if you are not serious about finding someone. Do not make this mistake and proofread. In addition to you proofreading your own profile, it also helps to have someone else proofread, as a new pair of eyes can catch things that you didn’t.
Now that you know everything there is to know about how to effectively create your online dating profile, and what you should avoid doing, you are ready to create or perfect your own online dating profile. Embrace the excitement of knowing that you can optimize your online dating profile to the best of its ability to eliminate the people that are not for you, and help you achieve your goal of meeting the perfect match for you!